6 REASONS WE’RE NOT THE RIGHT WEDDING OFFICIANTS FOR YOU

Now that you found your favorite person ever to spend your life with, it’s time to round out your wedding day dream team and since you found yourself here, you’re probably trying to figure out if we’re the right wedding officiants for you. 

Maybe you’re wondering if we’d vibe together and make your ceremony vision a reality. So, it might seem counterintuitive that we tell you all the ways we’re NOT the right ones for you, but sometimes it’s easier to say how we won’t mesh instead of listing out all the ways we will.

Take a look below for SIX reasons we shouldn’t swipe right.

1. Your wedding ceremony is NOT one of the most important parts of your wedding day.

We get it! Maybe for you - it’s the food, the music, or the photography. Those are all important pieces that make up your wedding day and it’s great that you know what matters most to you.

But, of course, we are incredibly biased and 1000% believe that your wedding ceremony is THE most important part of your day. It’s the moment you’re OFFICIALLY MARRIED! It’s where you stare into each other’s eyes, hold each other’s hands, share your love for one another, and commit to being there for each other no matter what life may bring. It’s the beginning of your marriage and believe us, you’ll want that start to be meaningful cause you’ll look back on it for years to come. If your ceremony isn’t one of the most important parts of your wedding then chances are we won’t work out.

2. You’re looking for a traditional ceremony.

Looking for the whole: “Dearly Beloved, we are gathered here today” ceremony style? We are NOT your peeps. Maybe you’re looking for a somber and serious occasion? That’s definitely NOT us.

We are all about working with you to imagine creative twists on rituals and give a nod to tradition, but we are most-definitely not your grandparents’ wedding officiant. In our book, wedding ceremonies are a CELEBRATION OF YOU, a fun and meaningful experience! Your ceremony should kickstart the party; not be something your guests have to ‘get through’. Your wedding day oughta be an EPIC day of deep connection - full of laughter, love, happy tears, and warm hugs! So, if you’re looking for something other than that, we’re not a good fit.

3. You want a religious ceremony

While I, Dani, went to Catholic school all through my elementary and middle school years, we are far from religious! We consider ourselves ever-evolving, always-learning students of life. Spiritual, more like. But definitely not devoted to any particular religion. Karla, on the other hand, is way more comfortable invoking God’s name and pulling modern-day scriptures from the Bible.

However, we both are incredibly comfortable with interfaith weddings! That’s probably because every interfaith wedding we’ve been lucky enough to officiate gave a nod to religious traditions that felt true to the couple without overt religious tones or prayers to one deity or another. So, if you’d like a religious ceremony, a minister, reverend, or imam in your congregation would probably be a better option for you.

4. You don’t want your story infused into your ceremony.

Maybe you’re very private and don’t feel comfortable opening up to a complete stranger about your love story. We get it! Maybe you’re looking for a standard civil ceremony, like the City Hall 60-second ones with no frills or personal details - just the gist. Cool!

The thing is that we’re the kind of wedding officiants who want to hear the ins and outs of your story. Everything from how you met, what marriage means to you, what annoys you about each other, the things you love to do together, and on and on and on. The more you share, the easier it is for us to write a personalized wedding ceremony infused with your flavor that feels every bit like you. But if that doesn’t feel quite right, a judge at the Marriage Bureau is probably more up your alley.

5. You have a tight budget.

We feel you! Weddings can be crazy expensive, even if you DIY lots of it. So when we hear couples say that we’re outside their budget, we really get it. TRUST. This reason is intertwined with reason #1 in lots of ways. Ya see, many couples will spend a pretty penny on the venue, the photographer, and the cake forgetting that their ceremony is just as important. Or even more so, in our humble opinion. In reality, your wedding officiant will probably be the least expensive vendors on your dream team but if that’s where you choose to cut your costs - we are not the right wedding officiants for you. 

6. You’re anti-inclusivity and anti-progressive.

Last but not least, we celebrate ALL LOVE across every spectrum of the rainbow. And yes, that includes poly-amorous partnerships. So if your political leanings oppress queer love, interracial love, and consenting adults’ love outside of the traditional white cis-het partnerships that are consistently elevated in this wedding industry, WE ARE NOT THE RIGHT FIT FOR YOU.

We believe it is every consenting adults’ right to love and marry, especially for partnerships that have historically had to fight and continue to fight to do so. If your beliefs are rooted in bigotry and exclusion, we likely won’t vibe.

If any of these six reasons resonate with you, then THANK YOU SO MUCH for stumbling into our little corner of the interwebbed world and CONGRATULATIONS on marrying your favorite person! We know you’ll find the right wedding officiant for you, but we’re NOT it.

On the other hand, if you’re feelin’ our vibe, chances are we’re gonna feel yours and can’t wait to meet you!