Unconventional Wedding Vow Advice

Most couples are under the impression that they have to escape to their own corners and secretly write their vows until the grand reveal on their wedding day. This approach may work for some but for many partnerships, one or both nearlyweds may find the act of writing a bit scary. Let alone writing your own personal wedding vows to share among your loved ones! 

Our unconventional advice is to sit down and have an open conversation about your wedding vows. You’re a team, after all, and that gets solidified on your wedding day. So if the pressure to write your vows is too much to handle, we recommend intentionally creating the space to have an open conversation.

Make it a date night, grab journals, and get excited! Here’s where you can share and take note of the everyday gestures or annual traditions you value in your relationship, memories you treasure, the appreciation you feel for one another, the gratitude you have for the person you yourself have become throughout your journey together, and on and on.

This conversation or series of conversations can help you pinpoint the promises you want to bring into your marriage and the overall flow of your vows.

For some couples, this will give you the confidence and love-fueled motivation to draft your own individual vows. For others, this may lead you to write your vows together. A select few will decide to write their own vows and then reunite to merge them into a meaningful set of blended vows. Maybe even in tandem vows!

Every couple has a unique heart print so inspiration is everywhere. If you’re feeling stuck, think about the things you enjoy together. Whether it’s traveling, exploring new restaurants, singing to your fave bop, or rewatching one of your favorite movies or shows, inspiration is all around you. Once you intentionally set your mind to be inspired, you’ll find it!